Project positive energy onto your kids with these 5 simple parenting tips. Positive vibes are contagious, and these tips will help you spread the spark throughout your home.
When I was about 10 years old, we found out my grandmother had cancer.
It was Christmas eve.
Of course we cried, but my younger sisters and I (unsure of what it really meant) quickly moved into Christmas mode.
The next morning, in true 90’s fashion, my mother had her massive VHS camcorder propped up on her shoulder ready to tape every second of us opening presents.
Now as a parent, I noticed something significant while re-watching that Christmas morning video.
Even though my mother’s voice was hoarse from crying the night before, her tones and words were so full of positivity and excitement.
If she has been curled up in a ball while we opened presents, it would have crushed us.
I realized that parental energy has such a huge impact on a child. What kind of energy was I projecting onto my kids?
What is Parental Projection?
As parents, our moods do – in fact – impact our children’s moods and behavior.
Projection was first conceptualized by good old Sigmund Freud. He proposed that as humans, our thoughts and desires are actually attributed to someone else. A parent’s experience and mood can be projected onto their child.
For example, children look to their parents for guidance, and seeing an anxious or irritable parent can lead the child to become more anxious in day-to-day scenarios.
Throughout each day, we send energy into the world and we receive energy back. This is especially exaggerated in our own homes.
Children will feel calm and warm when the parent emits positive energy. On the other hand, they may feel unconfident or anxious when their parents is unhappy.
The good news is that a parent can project positive vibes onto their children.
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5 Ways to Project Positive Energy onto Your Kids
The energy a child receives at home is often carried with them throughout the day.
Good energy can boost your child’s feelings of well-being, reduce sadness, and improve communication.
These are 5 simple ways you, the parent, can project positive energy onto your kids:
1) Improve Your Own Energy First
It’s hard to project positive vibes if you aren’t feeling it.
Boost your mood with some self care or personal time – whatever that might look like to you.
Start to see YOU time and rest as productive and a positive thing for your children – not as selfish or lazy.
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2) Check Your Tone
I noticed that my son’s entire morning was changed when I changed his morning greeting from “time to get up” to “Good morning! How did you sleep? Is there anything special you want to do today?”
While, there are times when it is important to be talk openly and honestly to your children about negative emotions, there are times when your child should not be burdened with your stressors and anxieties.
Sometimes, it is best to take a moment to clear your head, force on a smile, and elevate your tone. Prioritize spreading positive energy to your child over your own mood.
3) Talk About Yourself and Others in a Positive Way
Even if it doesn’t feel like it, your children are constantly listening and watching. And nothing kills a positive vibe like a gossiper or self-doubter.
When you talk bad about yourself or others, it creates negative energy in your home.
If you want to project positive energy onto your kids, make a conscious effort to eliminate gossiping and negative self-talk.
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4) Calm Vibes at Home
Keeping a peaceful and relaxing home environment is also a great way to spread positive energy to your kids.
There are simple things you can do to make your home a comfortable and calming oasis for your kids:
- Declutter your home- clutter promotes stress and interferes with the flow of positive energy.
- Incorporate house plants– flowers and plants are instant mood boosters and radiate harmonious energy.
- Let in natural light and fresh air (if possible)- research points to natural light having an impact on our mood, particularly our level of happiness
- Incorporate good scents– such as essential oils, have been proven to make people feel happier.
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5) Make it a Priority to Live in the Moment
The most important way to create positive vibes in your home is to stop dwelling on the past or stressing about the future. Stop purposely distracting yourself from the present with social media and your phones.
In other words, practice mindfulness.
Come back to the present moment.
Connect with your children.
Go on a walk together, cuddle and catch up on your day, or ask real questions that make your kid feel valued and loved.
Final Thoughts on How to Project Positive Energy onto Your Kids
Think of yourself as the trunk of a tree. Your children are the branches.
They rely on you for physical and mental nutrition and support. You are more connected than you realize.
These 5 tips will help you spread joy, happiness and positive energy directly to them- brightening their mood and lifting their spirits.
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